Having no predetermined sexual script looming over you gives you the freedom to do whatever the f works for you. With vulva to vulva non bonery, you also have a slight home court advantage of knowing your way around the equipment, since you've got similar stuff going on between your legs.
And if you don't happen to possess a vulva sorry, mate , you can still use some of these tips to get a few ideas about what kinds of things a woman might like. If you both love the kind of orgasm that come from grinding against something , create a win-win situation with a mutual hand grind. Lie face down side-by-side.
Fill your hand with lube and cup it under your girl's vulva, while she does the same for you. As you get more turned on thrusting against their hand, you can feel their body responding to your hand and, well, it's pretty effing heady.
Turn your heads to gaze at each other to make it even more intimate. Take opposite ends of the couch, lean back on the arms and masturbate with each other for a surprisingly intimate experience. It's part performative, part voyeuristic, plus you get to touch yourself exactly as you please which can double as a teachable moment. Go off-label and combine two toys to design your own super intense sensations. Have your partner lie back comfortably so she can use a clit suction-type toy on herself sometimes clit toys are the kind of things you want to control your own damn self.
As she gets more turned on, use a dildo or internal vibe inside her vagina. If you are feeling a little cruel Mistress, go ahead and make her beg for it. Have your partner lie on their back. Go down on them, paying extra attention to their clitoris with your mouth, while you also penetrate them with two fingers, or three if you really want to Lean In.
You really can have it all. Have your partner lie on their back with two pillows under their upper back. Kneel between their legs and draw slow circles around their clitoris with one hand. Use your free hand to massage their breasts, or just have a hot makeout sesh.
What's not to like? Have your partner get on all fours. Finger their butthole very slowly, and with lube! Then, with your free hand, play with their nipples or lips. When I said all hands, I meant all hands.
Lie on your back with your legs in the air. Have your partner face you and lean into your legs, pushing them behind your ears, while you rub your pelvic bones together. This allows for more direct contact between you two, without those pesky legs getting in the way.
Kneel facing your sitting partner and lean in until your nipples are touching. Then rub their clit, either with your hand or with a vibrator , stopping occasionally to kiss their breasts and nipples. Good vibes all around. That's what you're going for here. Kneel over their shoulders and let your butt brush against their nipples while their tongue gets intimate with your clitoris.
You'll be crazy in love with this position. Have your partner get on all fours with their pelvis tilted up. Kneel over their calves, rubbing your clitoris against their leg. Start by licking their clitoris and vulva, but if they're up for it, move on to anilingus. The contrast will blow their mind. Have your partner get on all fours, then straddle their hips. Tug on their hair while you rub your clitoris against their tailbone.
Getting a little Fifty Shades of Grey is always hot. If you're really feeling ambitious, have your partner sit in a chair or on the couch. Facing away from them, kneel, straddling them. Bend over so your hips are in the air and touch your hands to the ground for support. Now they have all-access for oral sex, and you're about to get one hell of a head rush.
Lie on your sides facing each other's crotches. Go down on each other — just like a 69, but on your sides. You can even rest your head on their inner thigh if you get tired. Simultaneously getting each other off without the neck strain? Yes, please!
Sit on a slightly-reclined chair with one knee bent up and your foot resting on the edge of the chair. Have your partner straddle your raised leg and grind their clitoris against your thigh. Just lean back and enjoy the ride. Have you partner get on all fours and kneel right behind them, grinding your hips against their butt. Reach around and finger their clitoris with one hand the other is free to help out, engage in some nipple play, or tug on their ponytail—mix n' match as you see fit. Kneel right behind your partner, give them a pillow to cushion their head and bend them over so their hips are in the air.
If they prefer manual stimulation, you can take that route and use your fingers or tongue. Or, you can gear up with a strap-on and penetrate them doggy style. Sit on your partner's lap with your back to them. From here, they can finger you and you can finger them, all while you swing your hips back and forth along their pelvis. You can also throw a vibrator into the mix! Have your partner lie on their side and straddle one of their legs so your clits rub together. Grind on. It's a classic for a reason!
This position is steamy and intense — maybe even too intense for some. Kneel facing each other with your knees intertwined and your bodies touching. Slowly grind against each other's thighs while you make out. All that eye contact is sure to bring you emotionally closer to each other. Similar to The Espresso, except your partner sits in a chair.
Straddle them so you're facing each other and start with a steamy makeout session. From here, they can reach around and penetrate you with their fingers or you can grind your pubic bone against theirs. Once again, this one is great for building some intimacy. Get your legs in the air! Lie on your back and have your partner kneel behind you.
From there, they can kiss, lick, and suck on your clitoris while penetrating you with their free hand or a dildo. This one can be a little tricky re: balancing yourself, but it's oh so worth it if you can pull it off. Kneel in front of your standing partner and have them drape one leg over your shoulder while you go down on them.
If you're feeling up to it, have them move your head or tell you exactly where they want your mouth to be. Face each other, sitting, with your legs spread.
Use a vibrator on their clitoris or just use your fingers, or both! It's all about figuring out what really turns the other person on, so try everything, but if they start making their O-face, whatever you do, don't stop. This position requires a strap-on harness and dildo. Once you're all geared up, enter them missionary style, but let your nipples brush against each other with every thrust.
This is the best kind of friction. Stand behind them and reach around with one hand to finger them. Massage their breast with the other hand, and, if they're really getting into it, have them play with their other nipple. The trifecta will drive them crazy in a very good way. Sit on them so your clits rub together. Rest your hands on their upper thighs for support while you grind against them.
Have your partner lie down on their back. Kneel over their head, facing their feet. Stay here if you're feeling selfish, but if you're a giver, bend forward and lick, kiss, and suck gently on their clitoris, while they do the same to you. It's an oldie, but a goodie. Stand facing each other and each wrap your left legs around the other person. Hug them close for support while they finger you.
If it helps with balance, stand near a a couch or sturdy table you can hold onto to keep yourselves upright. Lie in spooning position behind your partner and reach your top arm over to finger their clitoris. If you want to get in on the fun, have your partner reach back and finger you too. Feeling your way around makes it that much hotter.